Giving and Receiving Constructive Criticism

Constructive Criticism:
  • Provides feedback that enhances job results
  • Leads to ongoing personal and professional development
  • Reduces stress and creates psychological security
  • Helps improve interpersonal relationships
  • Helps develop the ideal organizational climate
Golden Rules of Giving Criticism:
  • Give criticism in private.
  • Do not sound threatening.
  • Keep the criticism balanced.
  • Focus on the problem, not on the person's personality.
  • Don't overstate the problem by using words such as "always," "never" or "worst."
  • Give criticism soon after the event.
  • Pose questions that let the person do the work for you.
  • Stick to one subject. Don't string together criticisms at one sitting.
  • Don't remind people of previous instances that were resolved.
  • Use the "I" mode.
Golden Rules of Receiving Criticism:
  • Welcome feedback.
  • Listen to the criticism.
  • Maintain eye contact and open body language as you listen.
  • Restate the criticism to make sure you understand it.
  • View the criticism as an attempt to fix a problem, not a personal attack.
  • Focus on possible solutions to each criticism.

Maths Trick Question: Ahmad Is A Poor Man

Ahmad is a poor man. He has no money.

He wants to buy a shirt that cost $50.00

He borrows from his friend, A, $25.00

He borrows from his friend, B, $25.00

He goes to the shop to buy the shirt.

The shirt is on sale. Now, it costs only $45.00

He pays for the shirt and gets a $5.00 in change.

He pays back his friend, A, $1.00

He pays back his friend, B, $1.00

Now he has $3.00 in his pocket.

He owes his friend, A, $24.00

He owes his friend, B, $24.00

So, he owes $48.00 in total.

He still has $3.00

$48.00 + $3.00 = $51.00

How can there be $51.00 when he only borrowed $50.00?

Try to explain this!

10 Ways To Blow The Interview

Information abounds regarding what you should say in an interview. But it can be just as important to realize what not to say. It is also imperative to note that what you say say can be communicated through both your words and actions.

1. You arrive late to the interview.
What it means: "I really don't care about getting this position."

Arrive a healthy 15 minutes before your scheduled appointment to give you time to collect your thoughts, review your notes and make a good first impression.

2. You're rude to the receptionist.
What it means: "I'm difficult to get along with."

Receptionists are the gate keepers and it's their job to be the eyes and ears of the company," cautions Lauren Milligan, founder and CEO of ResuMAYDAY, Inc. Besides, if hired, you may need their cooperation one day.

3. You answer questions with trite or cliché responses.
What it means: "I'm just one of the crowd."

Telling the interviewer you are a perfectionist and expect too much of yourself is sure to elicit a yawn, if not a discreet roll of the eyes, Milligan warns. Prepare potential responses ahead of time to avoid relying on the usuals.

4. You don't ask questions.
What it means: "I'm not that interested in your company."

The interview should be a two-way conversation "to determine if you are the right fit for the company, and if the company is the right fit for you," Milligan says. Use the interview to gather as much information about your potential new position as possible.

5. You answer the standard "Tell us about yourself," with "What would you like to know?"
What it means: "I have nothing special to offer this company."

This is your opportunity to steer the conversation into areas where you truly shine. Don't waste this chance by appearing to lack any outstanding qualities you want to share. And please don't start with where you were born. Focus on your career unless your birthplace is relevant to the job.

6. You use inappropriate language.
What it means: "I'm unprofessional and if it shows in the short span of an interview, imagine what I'll be like in the office."

Even if they're only mild and somewhat acceptable words, there still is no place for them in the interview.

7. You trash-talk your former boss.
What it means: "I have no discretion; I'll blab any inside information."

"If you left your prior job on poor terms, you need to put this relationship in a positive light for the interview," Milligan advises. "Even if your boss was to blame." You never want to bring negativity or antagonistic emotions into the interview. Keep it positive and upbeat.

8. You ask the interviewer to not contact your former employer.
What it means: "I have something to hide."

Even if you do not get along with your boss, you can always name someone else in the organization as a reference.

9. You exaggerate your accomplishments or credentials.
What it means: "I'm not good enough on my own merits, so I need to lie to make myself look good."

A skilled interviewer can easily identify fabrications in your background or experience. State your qualifications with confidence. You don't have to be Superman to get hired; you just have to be right for the job.

10. You don't thank the interviewer.
What it means: "I have no manners."

Forgetting to thank your interviewers in writing for their time can take the luster from even the most stellar interviewee.

The Dunning-Kruger effect

Dunning-Kruger effect (dun'-eng kroo'-guhr e-fekt') noun. The phenomenon wherein people who have little knowledge or skill tend to think they know more or have more skill than they do, while simultaneously overlooking or underestimating the knowledge and skills of others.

Usage example: There's this guy in my pickup league who couldn't hit a shot if a genie gave him three wishes and he used all three to do it...but he always chucks it up without conscience. He must be suffering from Dunning-Kruger effect.

Word history: The term is based on a series experiments performed by Justin Kruger and David Dunning, both of Cornell University, the results of which were published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology in December 1999. Here's an explanation from the abstract:
People tend to hold overly favorable views of their abilities in many social and intellectual domains. The authors suggest that this overestimation occurs, in part, because people who are unskilled in these domains suffer a dual burden: Not only do these people reach erroneous conclusions and make unfortunate choices, but their incompetence robs them of the metacognitive ability to realize it. Across four studies, The authors found that participants scoring in the bottom quartile on tests of humor, grammar, and logic grossly overestimated their test performance and ability. Although their test scores put them in the 12th percentile, they estimated themselves to be in the 62nd. Several analyses linked this miscalibration to deficits in metacognitive skill, or the capacity to distinguish accuracy from error.

Incompetent individuals will be less able than their more competent peers to gain insight into their true level of performance by means of social comparison information. In particular, because of their difficulty recognizing competence in others, incompetent individuals will be unable to use information about the choices and performances of others to form more accurate impressions of their own ability.
I know. There were a lot of big words in there, so let me break that down for you: Most people think they're better than they really are, but they're too stupid to realize it. And that same stupidity makes it difficult (and sometimes impossible) for them to recognize skills and competence in the non-stupids, which perpetuates their cycle of idiocy and megalomania.

Boy, that explains a lot, doesn't it? You see this in every area of life, including basketball. Pickup leagues are filled with suffering from the Dunning-Kruger effect. You know, the guys who insist on shooting the ball without regard to how pitifully low their success rate is. There's this one guy I've played with for years, and to my knowledge he's never hit a three-pointer, and yet he fires up two or three of them a night. I've always wondered why those people never "get it"... and now I know.

This condition is not limited to amateur athletes, of course. The NBA if chock full of players who are trapped in the strangling nets of the Dunning-Kruger effect. Take Stephon Marbury, who once said: "Don't get me wrong, I love Jason Kidd, he is a great point guard. (But) how am I comparing myself to him when I think I'm the best point guard to play basketball? That makes no sense. I can't compare myself to somebody when I already think I'm the best. I'm telling you what it is. I know I'm the best point guard in the NBA" Starbury said this during the period of his career when, as Statbuster once put it, he was always good for 20 points, 10 assists and 50 losses.

Then there's Paul Pierce, who this summer was asked if Kobe Bryant -- the reigning MVP of the league -- was the best player in the world. Paul, fresh off an NBA championship and Finals MVP award, responded as follows: "I don't think Kobe is the best player. I'm the best player. There's a line that separates having confidence and being conceited. I don't cross that line but I have a lot of confidence in myself."

Paul took a beating in the media and across the blogosphere for that comment. But he didn't retract it or try to claim he was misquoted or that his words were taken out of context. He emphatically underscored his original statement when he said: "That's what I said. I am a confident player and a lot of people might look at it like 'Oh, another cocky attitude,' but I don't look at it that way. I have an opinion, I have a right to have one and that’s the way I feel. I felt I’ve played against the best over the years and felt right now that I'm the best player in the world."

With all due respect to Paul, because he is a fantastic and versatile player, he's not the best in the world. By, like, quite a bit (although probably not as much as some of his critics would claim). Now, the typical justification given for statements like this is that professional athletes need to be confident, lest they be chewed up and spit out by a system in which only the strong -- both physically and mentally -- survive. But isn't a certain amount of self-awareness also important? Especially as skills diminish and circumstances change.

Take Shaq for example. Based on some of the things he said last year, he thinks he's just as good as he ever was. Such as when, at the beginning of the season, The Big Geritol claimed he was going to return to his old dominating ways. "As a tamed tiger now, you always go back to what you know, a la Siegfried and Roy. I've been tame the last couple years, but here’s a chance for me to go wild again." Of course, the new version of Shaq "going wild" featured him nearly fouling out of every game he played before going down with a bum hip. Shaq's inability to recognize his diminishing skills hurt his team. The same thing happened when Michael Jordan was playing for the Wizards.

Anyway, now that I'm aware of it, I'm going to be on the lookout for ongoing examples of the Dunning-Kruger effect.

Synonyms: Lake Wobegon effect, Optimism bias.

Michael Jordan's Historical Air Jordans

Do you really know your Air Jordan history? Here are what MJ wore when he won those championship games; each shoes are what he wore exactly in the deciding game of the NBA Finals. There are also some kicks in the list which he wore at certain points of his career that made history as well.

NBA Eastern Conference Playoffs 1986: Bulls vs Celtics (Michael Jordan's 63-point game) - Air Jordan 1 '94 Retro (White/Black/Red)

NBA All Star Weekend 1987: Slam Dunk Competition - Air Jordan 1 Retro (Black/Red)

NBA All Star Weekend 1988: Slam Dunk Competition - Air Jordan 2 Retro (White/Black/Red)

NBA Finals 1991 Game 5: Bulls vs. Lakers - Air Jordan VI (Black/Black-Infrared)

NBA Finals 1992 Game 6: Blazers vs. Bulls - Air Jordan VII (Black/True Red)

Barcelona Olympics 1992: Dream Team - Air Jordan VII (Olympic Edition)

NBA Finals 1993 Game 6: Bulls vs. Phoenix - Air Jordan VIII (Black/Varsity Red-White-Bright Concord)

NBA 1994-1995 season (Michael Jordan's first return) - Air Jordan XI “45″ PE

NBA Finals 1996 Game 6: Sonics vs. Bulls - Air Jordan XI (Black/Varsity Red-White)

Space Jam: Tune Squad vs. Monstars - Air Jordan XI (Black/Royal)

NBA Finals 1997 Game 6: Jazz vs. Bulls - Air Jordan XII (Black/Varsity Red-White-Metallic Silver)

NBA Finals 1998 Game 6: Bulls vs. Jazz - Air Jordan XIV (Black - Varsity Red)

NBA 2000-2001 season: Michael Jordan's second return - Air Jordan 17+ (White/Black/Copper)

NBA season 2002-2003: Sixers vs Wizards (Michael Jordan's final game) - Air Jordan 18 (White/Sport Royal)

Xin Nian Kuai Le, Gong Xi Fa Cai

Just like the title says. Have a good year everyone especially to all of my Chinese friends!


Peace out, L town!

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